Often we feel like we are not in control of our lives. While there are circumstances beyond our control, we have more control than we realize. Everything in life is a choice. A string of decisions. We may feel stuck sometimes and think there is nothing we can do, but there is always something that we can do. If we really, really can’t change circumstances, then we can at-least change how we see them. What we don’t always realize is that our mind set is a choice. You have to choose to be happy. Choose to be satisfied. Choose to be positive. I have always struggled with depression so I understand how hard this can be and hearing people say this is often annoying, but we have to be honest. It’s true. You can choose to be stuck or you can choose to be content. You can choose to look for everything wrong or choose to see what is good.
Most of the time what I think we struggle with is really taking responsibility. It’s easier to blame someone else. It’s easier to say these things happened to me, but what we may need to reconsider is that we allow it. We sit back and don’t do anything to change it and then complain when it isn’t what we want. But what are you doing about it? There are always choices. They may just be hard choices. Like quitting your job that you hate, or leaving an unhappy relationship. These things are hard, but those are choices you can make and have the power to make. Not making a choice is also a choice. A decision to stay in that unhappy or painful place. I heard recently someone say that they were addicted to it. Addicted to the toxic relationship. To the pain. That hit close to home. One definition for addiction is: “Addiction is a disease in which a person finds themselves unable to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior.” Even engaging in painful behaviors is an addiction. I think we very easily find ourselves caught in these harmful behaviors. Most people associate it with drugs or alcohol, but really, anything that is causing you harm and you know is bad for you, but you keep going back… You keep doing it… Could be considered to be an addiction. For me, this is unacceptable. I do not like to realize that I am being controlled by something outside of myself so when I realize this, and see it I try to stop it. Quitting an addiction is hard. I am not saying that it isn’t, but again, everything in life is a choice. You can choose to stop and choose to get help. You can choose to make changes. They are hard, you may slip up, but keep going. Don’t stop. Remember, Champions Don’t Quit!
I think what is important to realize, so that we can feel like we are in control and not just spiraling out, is to realize that we can make our lives what we want. Some decisions may be hard, but you have the power to make your life what you want. Take responsibility for yourself. Be honest with yourself. Stop making excuses. Stop blaming other people. You are or are not doing the things you want to be doing. So… that means you have the power to do something different, if that is what you really want. I am not trying to be harsh or down play difficult times, but honesty is important. Be empowered knowing you have the ability to make your life what you want it. If you want to spend your weekends on the lake, do it! If you want to start a blog, do it! If you want to start a new business, do it! There are always a million reasons not to do something. Do it anyway. Be courageous enough to grab your life by the reigns and take it where you want to be! Love yourself enough to build a life that you love. Be Empowered, Strengthened and Recover, because you have control over your life.