This is my first blog in my emotional healing series. I am passionate about healing. Helping others heal, and my own healing. It’s what I do for a living and I have grown so much since working on myself as well. I want to help others feel the same sense of growth and recovery. I have several ways that you can heal from past trauma or heartache. These will be things that you can work on to bring peace and balance into your life. Each post I write will be a specific idea. I want to truly delve into each one so I am breaking them up into separate lessons, if you will.
The first one is being yourself. I am sure we have all heard that saying “be yourself and the right people will love you.” I tell my kids this and I have been told this. But… In life it can be really hard to truly be yourself. Most of us fear judgement from others. Family or peers. Or we fear rejection or confrontation. But what I’ve come to realize is that if we are fearing judgement or rejection there is a lack of trust. A lack of trust in ourselves. We don’t trust that we are good enough as we are. Or that we aren’t likeable. So this also bleeds over into a self love issue. Now, if you follow my blog, I am going to warn you now, you will be hearing me talk a lot about self love. Because, really, everything that we fear or avoid really comes from a lack of self love. So the real lesson here is to love yourself. Know that you are loveable. You are worthy. You are enough. If someone doesn’t like you the way you are, that is their problem. They just aren’t your people. You can only find your people if you are yourself.
Sometimes in life we also have to put on the mask. We go to work and have to put on the customer service face or the business face. We go to school and have to try to look like we are there and ready, but really we may be tired or even going through something deeply emotional. This becomes a habit and I think we do it more than we realize, but also, we think other people don’t want to hear about our problems and we don’t want to let others see in. Now, there are times when you need to be professional or not let everything show, but I think we also need to know that it is ok to have bad days. It’s normal to not be perfect all the time. Letting people know you and who you are is so important. This is something I am really working on myself. I don’t always speak my mind and say what I really think or feel and over time it ends up hurting me more. I am trying to speak my truth more and quite honestly… I don’t get the rejection or judgement I am always afraid of. Even more important if I do, I am learning not to take it personally. People are free to think what they want or to respond the way they do. I can’t take everyone’s thoughts or feelings personally. It’s ok. I know that I am good. I know that I am loving. I know that I am caring and open minded. I know that I work hard. I know that I am a good mother and a good woman. So, if I am myself and someone doesn’t like it, it doesn’t affect me anymore. I know who I am.
So, love yourself enough to be yourself. Be who you are and the right people will be drawn to you. Not everyone is going to like you and just be ok with it. They aren’t meant for you and that’s ok. No one can make everyone happy all of the time. Just be ok with it. It isn’t easy, but it’s worth working on. One day when you are truly being yourself and you are surrounded by people who love you and are like minded, you’ll be glad you did.